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She Looks Just Like You

A Memoir of (Nonbiological Lesbian) Motherhood

Author: Amie Klempnauer Miller

After ten years of talking about having children, two years of trying (and failing) to conceive, and one shot of donor sperm for her partner, Amie Miller was about to become a mother. Or something like that. Over the next nine months, as her partner became the biological mom-to-be, Miller became . . . what? Mommy’s little helper? A faux dad?

As a midwestern, station wagon-driving, stay-at-home mom-and as a nonbiological lesbian mother-Miller both defines and defies the norm. Like new parents everywhere, she wrestled with the anxieties and challenges of first-time parenthood but experienced pregnancy and birth only vicariously. Part love story, part comedy, part quest, Miller’s candid and often humorous memoir is a much-needed cultural roadmap for becoming a parent, even when the usual categories do not fit.

“[A] sweetly humorous and insightful account of uncommon motherhood.”—Booklist

“An introspective work that lays open the inner workings of lesbian parenthood while effectively demystifying parenthood in general.”—Kirkus Reviews

“Mothers as well as fathers will recognize themselves in Miller’s brave, poignant, and funny memoir about parenthood. Both unique and universal, Miller’s honest and hopeful voice shines a bright light on the adventures of creating a family in the twenty-first century.”—Jennifer Finney Boylan, author of She’s Not There and I’m Looking Through You

“Take one big heart, a heap of talent, and a whole lot of courage and you get Amie Miller’s She Looks Just Like You. Miller is a graceful, witty, compassionate guide along the journey that is lesbian parenting.”—Harlyn Aizley, editor of Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All

Reviews

Review by: Bay Windows 2010 Holiday Gift Guide, Bay Window - November 30, 2010

"She Looks Just Like You: A Memoir of (Nonbiological Lesbian) Parenthood, by Amie Klempnauer Miller, is a heartfelt chronicle of becoming a mother and navigating the first year of parenthood with her partner. Miller has managed to find a thoughtful balance between the things that set nonbiological lesbian parents apart and the things that bring all parents together."